Tuesday, November 15, 2011

Babies

In the last month, four of my friends have announced that they are pregnant. Some of them are having second and third babies; some of them are having first babies. Most of them are my age or older, which made made Tom and I have the big talk again: are we going to have a second baby?

The more I thought about it, the more I thought that at this point in my life, with our financial situation being what it is, I can either have a second baby or a career. I don't see any practical way of doing both right now. And I'm 37. I certainly don't see myself doing the round-the-clock feeding thing again when I'm 40. (As it is now, we still have to get up sometimes four times a night with Colden!)

We had always thought about having a second baby so that Colden wouldn't be an only child. Tom's mom was an only child, and she has always said that the one thing she really wanted was a sibling. I have to admit that since my mom passed away a few years ago, I've become closer to my sister. I would love for Colden to have a brother or sister that he could have that experience like Tom and I did.

But. I just don't think it's in the cards. Not right now, anyway. Maybe I'll change my mind in a year. Maybe we'll find a way to do it in a year. But for right now, we're just going to enjoy Colden, and enjoy watching him grow up, even if it makes me a little sad that he's doing it all by himself...

3 comments:

Melanie said...

ahh...You know I am so there with you. Now is not the time for us right now either.

Karen Firnberg said...

I have to speak up for only children. My mother is an only child, I'm and only child and my daughter is an only child. We are not lonely but do enjoy being alone. The advantages I had were numerous. Plenty of travel and no financial strain. I had no problems being an only child. I just had lots of friends. I tended to date guys with lots of family. Just wanted to put that out there.

VanBeads said...

Thank you for that comment, Karen. I know that right now, Tom and I are doing everything we can for Colden, and sometimes I wonder if we could really do that if we had two kids. He gets lots of attention from both of us as well as from his grandparents, and he's really blossoming into quite the little young man. Especially in this day and age, we do worry about the financial strain if we had a second baby.